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    I feel bad for the men that get indoctrinated by this guy. Just like a lot of people that get taken in by religion, these people are looking for some understanding or change that really can only come from within but the church is promising that religion is the only way.

    These men don’t understand that there is no black and white/ universal version of “manliness”. We all have to decide for ourselves what “being a man” means.

    I go with a simple definition: as someone who was born a man and continues to identify as a man, my feeling is that, anything I do is “manly” because I am a man. Doesn’t matter if it’s sewing, hunting, or eating soup (which the preacher in the article seems to think is not manly)

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        And also being so confident, you don’t need another man to tell you you’re a big strong masculine man.

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          In college a woman remarked “I don’t know many men manly enough to wear a pink shirt.”

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            In my opinion, as a man, feminism is for men. Feminism, at its core, is saying that strict gender roles are made up, and anyone is capable of being anyone. Men had a lot of freedom to do this already, though obviously a lot of things weren’t allowed, like homosexuality, playing with other gendered clothing, or “queerness” in general as it used to be called.

            A proper understanding of feminism I think would lead us all to recognizing we are free from the shackles of tradition, though the word makes a lot of people think it’s only helping women, at the expense of men.

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              this is a nice way to look at it - but feminism isn’t just a vague ideology, it’s also a social movement that is designed for women and populated by women. men are at best allies in that space, and at worst viewed as the enemy, othered, and excluded.

              i’ll gladly id as a feminist ideologically but i’m not foolish enough to think i’d be welcomed with open arms at a feminist rally. tolerated? sure. but not part of the group.

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                I’ve been welcomed in feminist spaces. Don’t try to take center stage or make it about you and you’ll be fine in the vast majority of them.

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                  if you truly believe that, it says more about your own social awareness than it does about the feminist movement.

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                I don’t think you’re correct, and I’ve felt welcomed around feminists (though I’ve never been in explicit feminist spaces). Even if you are though, it doesn’t detract from my point. The goals of feminism help men too. If followed to completion, it removes gender roles from being strictly necessary. It allows people to be what they want.

                Feminism is part of a larger movement, hence intersectional feminism. Even that though is part of a larger movement of liberalizing society to accept all people for who they are. Yes, there are also some groups who use feminism to exclude other people (TERFs, for example), but usually if people agree women should be allowed in roles normally reserved for men then gender norms aren’t real and are necessarily oppressive, for everyone.

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                  nothing that you’ve said here contradicts my point and you’re demonstrating a profound misunderstanding of intersectionalism.

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        I don’t know if I like soup. The only soup I ever had was cambells, and it was awful. But then everybody tells me that cambells is the bottom of the barrel scum of the soup world.

        So maybe I just don’t like cambells.

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          Campbell’s classic chicken noodle hits different when you’re recovering from a bout of norovirus.

          But generally yes, canned soup is pretty bad. There’s a ton of soups across most global cuisines, so many so that it’s borderline unbelievable that you’ve never tried a single one.

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          Hey, you’re like me. I HATED soup for decades. Can soup BS was disgusting. Soup on the side of my burger, gross.

          Then I went to a real soup place. Like all they did was soup. Like professional level soup that’s $8 a cup or $12 a bowl.

          My god - it was incredible. I now understand the Soup Nazi bit of why anybody would tolerate that behavior.

          I went from clean shaven anti-souper to a god damn soup coke fiend.

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      Pretty much how I see it. Being “a man” is being comfortable with who you are and not being scared about what others think. Putting a dress on and having “Tea” with your kids during playtime is just as manly as playing football. (And looks hilarious when you’re a 6 ft tall biker looking dude with a beard and hairy legs like me.)

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      Church is (almost) free therapy though, problem is that some church leaders want to use believers for their own benefit

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      Probably would also talk hours with amazingly attractive women while in therapy too

      I mean, there are ethical boundaries, but already more than a guy trying to find strength outside likely has

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    This wispy-bearded Texan is in the vanguard of a movement urging conservatives to relocate to Russia. Last August, Putin introduced fast-track shared values visa for those fleeing Western liberalism.

    Oh no … don’t do that. Us lefties would hate if all our manly men left us to deal with these Haitians eating our dogs alone. That would trigger and own us so much.

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      Well, they’ll probably have manlier problems to deal with since moving to Russia is leopard eating your face speedrun, with examples such as Russel Bentley or that one conservative Canadian family that sold their everything to move to Russia and got their money stolen by Russian banks.

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      I really wish Russia would get it’s shit together. It’s a beautiful country that just goes on forever. I’ve met Russians that are just awesome. I would love to go on vacation there, or even retire there one day. Buy a little dacha on a river next to some sleepy little village. But the politics, fucking Putin, fucking oligarchs…

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          I don’t think it’s starting, I think the mask is just slipping off. Russia used violence, America has been using financial violence…

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        Has there ever been a period in history where Russians haven’t been oppressed by their government or the church?

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            While the dissolution of the Soviet union was great for the world, you would not have wanted to be a citizen of Russia living in Russia at that point. I have family members who still live there and did then and it was utter chaos and also created local power vacuums that got filled with local mafia style gangs or local police who also just acted like local mafia style gangs.

            But yeah, as far as the federal government not shitting in Russians, that would be a proper window of time

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      It’s propaganda. We’re trying to make it look like every man’s reaction because they want to years argumentum ad popularum try and make it so

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        Who? People keep fucking saying there’s a lot but all I see is a vocal minority? You see 1/200 and you focus on them?

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            That propaganda helped Trump win the Gen Z vote. I wouldn’t say it’s a minority when factoring only youth. Plus there are plenty of middle aged and older men that have fragile masculinity.

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        Only 75, per the article. No one writes articles like this about women getting into Wicca even though it’s hundreds of times more common

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          What’s wrong with Wicca? The women I’ve met who were into that were very nice and a ton of fun and the “worst” of them were just delightfully odd. Unlike the strutting asshole men which the OP concerns who are all up in themselves and their supposed “masculinity”. FWIW, I was an athlete when I was young and met and defeated more than my share of these jackasses. Lost to few too. But that’s sport. And unlike those guys, I learned the right lessons from sport. They never will.

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        Having once been a young man, there’s a period where one questions their role in the world and accordingly acts the fool before figuring it out. I had an upbringing with more than adequate parents and education that helped me through that period without me making an ass of myself often enough to be singled out as being an exceptional ass. I am lucky. Some people aren’t and they act out. And those that are exceptional asees act out and are really self important and noisy. Mostly just to hear themselves and drown out the voices of those who are telling them to stop being such an ass.

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      Are you talking about me? How do you know? It’s pure rumors anyway! I’m extremely manly, OK? My car makes a lot of noise, so yeah. I’m heterosexual btw

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    doggedly backed the invasion of Ukraine, calling it a Holy War

    Yeah I don’t really give a shit about their concept of the male gender. Apparently it involves fathering many children, so that Russia doesn’t run out of soldiers for the hundred years of glorious holy war it will take to defeat NATO and save the world. If you really want to reach the ultimate heights of manliness, try wearing eye shadow, practicing embroidery, and watching Hello Kitty while remaining confidently masculine.

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    If you have to be told how to be “manly” then you probably definitely aren’t whatever the fuck you even think “manly” is.

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    Manliness has always been a scam.

    Source: me having grown up in the Balkans where manliness tends to reign supreme as a life goal

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        Only if your conception of masculinity is stupid. There are plenty of manly role models out there, we’ve just largely decided not to pay them much attention.

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          The manliest man I can think of: Norm Abram. His achievements:

          • Made a living wearing flannel shirts

          • Excellent beard

          • Distinguished service award from the American Academy of Ophthalmology

          • Built a sailboat

          • said “Not roman orgy, roman ogee” on national television and got away with it

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          If you step out of line with what is considered acceptable (and The most toxic insecure men incent things to be afraid of out of nowhere) you get harshly punished. Learned this the hard way growing up trans

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                I guess you got off the hamster wheel at some point. I imagine trans men being faced with this stuff… That’s not to say there’s no toxic stuff on the femme side of things.

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                  Oh yeah we got problems on the girl’s side bit at least women aren’t afraid soybeans is gonna take away their masculinity

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      It’s stupid on so many levels.

      First off, it implies there is some sort or series of social masculine trait(s) that are in some way desirable. It gets even more stupid when this turns into expectations, like “you’re a man, you should X”.

      It’s kind of sad but not unsurprising that there’s an industry trying to capitalize on the resulting insecurities.

      I think it was a positive aspect of the MGTOW idea to reject these expectations and do your own thing.

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        I think mgtow pretty quickly became an incel movement, at least from what I saw on reddit.

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            Well like the other commenter said, it was ostensibly about guys just focusing on themselves and breaking out of the toxic trait of defining yourself by whoever is on your arm. That in itself is fine, and hell, even helpful. The issue is that it naturally attracted incels trying to be the aloof sigma that’s too cool to bother with silly women.

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      I was always told to be manly was to show up for those that you love. To be reliable and useful on a day to day basis. All this nonsense about dominance and “independence” is just ridiculous.

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    IF you can be shamed into going a Russian church to be manly, you are headed in the opposite direction from the path to manliness - you become a pussy who can only follow.

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    While all of you meme and joke and minimize the threat, a rising wave of disaffected boys has grown up under the most toxic of social environments and still NONE of you take this seriously.

    When you see the world in ten years time you will kick yourselves for doing nothing to stop it now in its infancy

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      Stop what? Stop it how? Suddenly make every parent in the US loving, compassionate, and effective at raising their children? Or maybe we could just fix the economy? One of those is bound to work, easy!

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        There is no easy solution and the fact your dismissive and snarky reply is so upvoted is kind of proof that there is no fixing the situation anymore

        The hard solution is to first deplatform their demagogues but since they make their media platforms ridiculous money, it isn’t changing

        There’s also a significant possibility we simply won’t be having real elections in America anymore so the chance to get progressive people in office to curb this is over

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          If deplatforming and political action by the ruling class are the main methods to stop this crisis, then none of us had any power to do anything in the first place

          It’s no wonder no one takes this seriously: the epidemic of disaffected young men is only a symptom of greater societal issues and can’t effectively be addressed on its own. That’s also what I was getting at with my comment

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          You got all mad for people posting no real solution and when given the chance, offered no real solution

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              But how can I deplatform the demagogues? It seems impossible. What you proposed sounds nearly as unattainable as the snarky “Suddenly make every parent in the US loving, compassionate, and effective at raising their children”.

              I’m not in charge of the demagogues platforms. The platforms have no need to respond to social protests since the demagogues make them money. The majority of moderate people will not ever care enough to stop using a platform that supports evil. Tons of people still use facebook even when they KNOW about all those scandals, because they feel like it’s just not a big problem, and ultimately because they just like using facebook.

              Your proposed solution just feels a lot like the how to draw an owl meme.

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          At this point, anything start rolling, it’s already too late to stop it. Nothing we can do but brace for the worst.

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      It’s a hoot. These Ultra Incels think the Orthodox Church is going to hand them a submissive woman. Sounds like their new church is a sausage fest up in there.

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